Jun 04 , 2022
People have really over complicated dating. Women are pulled in all directions trying to make their romantic dreams come true. They burn the candle at both ends. They try to change who they are or play games based upon terrible advice given by self proclaimed dating experts with no certifications. Men hear other so called love gurus telling them to watch out for gold diggers and expect 50-50 in all things love.
People suffer needlessly in dating when it is supposed to be fun and then bring that obsessive uptight energy on their dates. It’s enough to make you want to buy five cats, eat chocolate daily and invest in sweatpants for everyday of the week, only loving your favorite streaming shows right?
Don’t fret. There’s hope. Here are the tips you need to become successful in Dating NOW:
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YOU ARE NOT IN DIVINE ENERGY AND YOU NEED TO GET THERE
Let me guess, in the past when you were really into someone, they eventually ghosted you. This made you pursue them with lackluster results. You ended up feeling embarrassed and unworthy.
That’s because, my beauty, you switched from your fun playful self into the anxious obsessive what I call “Wounded or Unrealized Masculine energy.” It doesn't have to do with gender, it has to do with energy. We all have Divine Energy both masculine and feminine as well as wounded feminine and masculine energy. ALWAYS. I won’t go into all of the details here because it would take a long time, but you can get my free 4 Archetypes explanation HERE.
2. You need to learn to spot red flags (and then take a detour away from that person)
Dating in the right energy is fun and playful! There are some red flags that you can spot that will keep you from choosing the same type of person that did not turn out well for you in the past. Do they bash their ex? This is a very good indicator that they are still needing to heal and also that they are not taking any responsibility for their part. Not good. Do they ask about your life or do they just talk about their own the whole time? Now being in feminine energy is more being present and listening rather than talking, BUT if he seems to have no interest in learning about you, steer clear.
- Do they make overly sexual comments way too early? This is a good indication that they are more focused on getting in bed than getting to know you. Run.
- Do they make jokes at your, or someone else’s expense? A few fun jokes are great, mean spirited, not so much.
- Do they drink a lot of alcohol on your dates? Not a good indicator if they need that crutch.
- Do you feel seen and heard or do you feel you need to entertain. This could mean they are in feminine energy and are pulling you into masculine. Not good.
There’s a lot more that I can't simply teach you through reading a blog. To change your habits and patterns of being attracted to the wrong person-You can join my new E-course Divine Dating or just explore the info for it HERE.
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You need to become attracted to Divine masculine men instead of bad boys or casanovas
We all have hormones that make us feel lusty or draw us to the wrong type of person for us. That does not mean we need to act on it! Make the decision to not ever reach out first. This will make it so obvious which of the men you are dating are putting in the actual effort, and which ones are expecting you to chase them. This is key. A naturally more feminine woman feels ichy anytime she is the one doing the majority of wooing. Don’t do it. If this is rough for you then you should explore my ecourse Divine Dating.
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BOUNDARIES-How to make them and keep them!
Write down your deal breakers. Do you want kids? Not want them? Do you hate texting and prefer phone calls? Do you want your partner to be driven? Laid back? Monogamous? Date once a week? ETC
You can't make boundaries if you don't even know what YOU want.
Make a list and stick to it. Now this can change later if you find your lifestyle has changed but only by YOU. Not FOR him. You can learn more in Divine Dating e-course. You will learn how to keep your boundaries and love dating again. CLICK HERE FOR ECOURSE INFO
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STOP PEOPLE PLEASING! IT’S LYING!
People, myself in the past not excluded, like to proclaim that they are “People Pleasers”. They overgive, over-do, run themselves to the ground.
Guess what, if that’s you…you are a dishonest person. You are doing things that you don’t want to do, hoping to exchange it for worthiness and love.
But that is not earned. You are lovable. ALREADY. This comes across as desperate and anxious. Stop the martyrdom. It’s your life here. There’s a whole module on this in the Divine Dating Course. That is how important this is! CLICK HERE TO EXPLORE IT
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Dating apps-you’re doing them all wrong:
So you finally plunged into the world of dating apps. You find your favorite picture, its a filtered selfie and old but you like how you look. You write your text saying how you hate dating apps and that you don’t know where all the good guys have gone, don’t post any photos of your full body, and then start scrolling to find a pic of a guy you find attractive, swiping quickly with out looking at his text.
NO!!!!!
Your profile should be what you really look like. Now you don't have to stress on the date thinking he “Must be disappointed with how i look”
You should have certain photos in the body like a full length, fun pic, ETC
We go over all of this in the go at your own pace online course I teach.
I also go over profiles of men to avoid. CLICK here to buy the course.
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Show up to the date feeling amazing!
It’s important to show up to your dates with confidence. Do not set up the date for a day you worked a 12 hour shift at the hospital, or the day your mother is visiting, etc.
Make sure you keep your normal routine and do something relaxing like take a bubble bath before you get ready.
This is not a husband hunt. This is a fun time to learn more about another human.
Self care and positive affirmations are proven to work. We go over all of this in the Divine Dating course.
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Become Irresistible to men-It’s not what you think…
Yes men are visual but you and I know many women who are not classically attractive, or even not at all, that are married and happy.
That is because they have embraced their energy and their partner has embraced the opposite.
Body language is key. Make sure you are relaxed. Lean backwards gently and make eye contact with a soft smile. Listen to what he says and then respond rather than desperately trying to figure out what to say. He will feel that energy. You can learn the body language techniques and tips in Divine Dating.
When you embody this you will draw attention from all sorts of masculine.
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Enjoy dating again!
Think of it as making a new acquaintance. Stop looking for a life partner everytime you go on one date. Do you want to be evaluated as a wife or no wife on one date??? NO.
Relax. Picture the date as being fun. Visualize yourself laughing with him. See the two of you having a blast. Then let go of all pressure and expectations. Embody that playful feminine energy.
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Finally your APPEARANCE
We all have our own unique style. If you throw on sweats and a ponytail, and you eat junk food all day you are not putting your best self out there. Make sure you put in some effort. You will have so much more fun feeling sexy and sharp. We will be giving live feed back with your fellow sisters in the e-course for whoever is open to outward appearance advice. We will cover: Hair, Make-up, Health choices, clothes. Everything. CLICK HERE
I hope this has helped you and even more I hope to meet you personally in the ecourse. Happy dating!
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By Lauren Sugihara Celebrated Celebrity; Certified Relationship and Health coach