May 29 , 2022
I have been where you are. You want your ex back.Its so hard.
Most of us have been there! Sheesh that’s what got me into becoming a relationship coach in the first place!You cannot stop thinking about them. You know that it was a tough relationship, you know that the people closest to you wish that you would just, “Forget about them and move on!”And yet you just can’t seem to do so.Even worse than that you feel like you have no sense of self without them. Don’t worry.
Here are some simple actions that you can take to not only get your ex back in your life, but to not lose yourself, or better yet, improve yourself in the process from a certified relationship coach who has been there:
Assess the current situation:
Who is reaching out to who and how much?
If you are reading this, I am willing to bet you are the one reaching out to them first. You are trying to make sure they don’t forget you exist. You are thinking of any excuse to talk to them.
You may even be trying to guilt them into talking to you by bringing up how miserable you are, or the opposite, trying to come across as though life is great and trying to make them jealous.
This must stop. LIKE NOW. If you are the one reaching out first and they are not reciprocating you are likely pushing them away with your obsessive energy. Sorry....but you already knew that right? You might be thinking “Easier said than done!” Well if you really want them back sister, then you’ve got to stop. This is a pattern you have had for years that stems from how you grew up. You most likely had some sort of abuse or trauma, or parents that were not very present. Now this does not mean love didn’t exist at home, it just means your needs were not met in a healthy way. Maybe you got the message that you had to “earn” love by being perfect. Maybe fear and pain were your norm. Whatever the case you are now trying to solve that riddle in your adult life with your romantic partners. Yup. Deep stuff.
But you need something simple right now. For starters and from now on NEVER reach out first. You can respond warmly when THEY reach out first but you don’t make the first move. They are running. So stop the game of tag.
You can go more into this energy exchange and correct it with this free bundle I created. It includes an explanation of energies in love and also has 3 meditations I made SPECIFICALLY for these very problems one of which is: How to stop contacting them: MEDITATION BUNDLE or you can get the whole "Get Him Back" E-course that includes the bundle for free here: GET HIM BACK
2. Are you obsessing? Are you completely focused on them?
I know it’s hard, sweet soul. I’m not judging.
Again before I helped others with this I was where you are. Your mind is racing, you go back over what happened over and over. Maybe if I had been better, younger, prettier etc. They would have stayed. Well guess what? You are right where you are supposed to be right now. I know, it sure as hell doesn’t feel like it right? Stay with me. If they are your true love and person, then you both had to get to this place in order to transform and grow so that you can be together. That’s the good news. The bad news is that they can feel all that obsessive energy. Yes, they can feel it. It oozes off of you in the form of anxiety and neediness. Even desperation. Guess what? That is not attractive. Not to them, not to any new people who might be your actual true love, and not to you!! You don’t want to be that person right? Oh, I hear you now. “Lauren what kind of hippy bs is that? They can’t feel my energy!” Well, honey I’m telling you they can. Haven’t you had the experience in the past when you heal and start to move on, when the person in question will suddenly reach out? Yeah that is what I thought. So here’s how to do it.
You need to distract for temporary relief coupled with meditating for long term relief. You should be casually dating, (more on that next), you should be progressing in other areas of your life in your own passions, friendships etc. If you are having a ton of trouble with those spinning thoughts in your head, I highly recommend meditation daily. There are lots of meditations on Youtube. I also include a meditation called “Stop Obsessing” in my free bundle that is made just for this problem. : CLICK HERE. Or just get the proven get him back E-course here to heal and get your love back, it includes the meditation bundle here:
Stop Waiting. Stop Being Exclusive without being exclusive. It’s Gross babe.
“But Lauren, I don't like anyone else! I don’t want to have a rebound, I want to be healthy!”
Yes honey I know that you only have eyes for them. That no-one else does it for you and that you have made the mistake of hooking up in the past which is unhealthy. Again this does not come across as attractive…at all.
The reason that you don’t like anyone else is that you are not giving it a chance because you are AFRAID. I was too. What if he finds out? Won’t he think I’m dis-loyal? Hello!!!!! You are not together! He has not offered you the commitment that you deserve! You are simply showing him that you have no other options and that he can do whatever he wants and you will be sitting there like a cute little puppy waiting by the door. You are NOT a puppy. You are a goddess. You are a diamond in the rough, but you are not showing that to him. Men are hunters and pursuers. They want to know that they have claimed the prize, and the only way for you to show that is to allow others to treat you like one. You should be casually dating at least 3 or more suitors. This is the magic number until you get the commitment you want! If you are afraid of dating you can find many youtube meditations to calm your mind or get the free bundle that includes the “Alleviate fear of dating and date with confidence meditation” that I created especially for this. CLICK HERE Or just invest in your healing and get the E-course that includes it anyway!
Change your patterns. For Good.
These tips will bring them back towards you, but it will not change the underlying problem. You don’t feel worthy.
The reason you are even wanting a person that is no longer coming toward you is that you do not feel worthy. You need to cultivate your life.
Discover yourself. Many people who are widows/widowers will tell you that losing your true love is devastating. You can do all of that dating and then lose them. So the message is, your total happiness cannot come from another human being. It needs to come from you and your own life. Write down 10 things each day that you love doing for the next 10 days. On the 10th day you will have 100 things that you can turn to, to bring you happiness. Now start doing at least 3 per day. Everyday. Your life will grow in happiness and in turn you will become much more attractive to others. Think about it. Do you want to be around someone who’s only focus is you with no life of their own? A depressed person? NO! No one else does either!
I know that if you follow these suggestions your life will change and your true person coming to you is not far away.
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If you want to dive in further you can get the proven “Get Him Back” Ecourse that dives very deep into all of these techniques. 100s of women have gotten the love that they want doing this course. It includes the aforementioned meditations as well as access to a private community of women, and myself as well. CLICK HERE
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Is a Certified Health Coach, a Certified Relationship Coach, Hypnotherapist, and Psychic Intuitive. International Model and 2011 F2W Kickboxing Champion, Over 12 years sober, Lauren has surmounted many obstacles including surviving her own heartbreak and relationship struggles in her past. When she healed she found her calling to help stop the heart ache for others. Lauren is committed to helping people reach their goals and find love as well as happiness and health. Her methods and gifts have helped so many people, but now her E- courses can help you at home or from anywhere. Her unique method of combining the healing of addiction to toxic situations with dating, love, intuition, hypnotherapy and health advice is a recipe for success.
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